Am I? Or Am I Not?
Picture it: lockdown 2020. We were all quarantined inside our houses with very limited interaction with other humans. The world was frightening and there wasn’t a whole lot to do. So what did most of us end up doing? Downloading TikTok. That’s what I did at least. Little did I know that downloading an app would contribute to changing my entire world.
Let’s give you some background first. In 2020, I was married to a man and had been since 2013. I had a son who would have been 3 years old at the time. I worked full time from home in healthcare. I was living a house that my spouse and I owned. My parents lived 2 hours away but my mom, who has since passed, came to help us with our son while daycare closed.
I noticed over the subsequent year following the initial download of TikTok, that there were a lot of really attractive people posting on the app. A lot of people, who I found attractive, who weren’t men. My thoughts went something like this: oh, I’ve just never seen anyone who looked like that in real life before… wait, why are there so many people I find attractive who aren’t men? Am I attracted to people who aren’t men?
Early in 2022, I confided in a close friend who I knew identified as bi. It was the…
