It’s a well-known fact that if you are having a child in America, you’re effectively on your own once that kid is out in the world. There’s very little social welfare for parents in the United States, and what little there is depends heavily on your employment. That’s right – it’s not your mere existence that guarantees you healthcare and child care, it’s where you work and often how much you work.
When Sara Carver Milne, now the associate head coach at Auburn, was named the head coach for Brown at age 25, she was not even a 12-month employee of the Ivy League university. Neither was her assistant coach. “They didn’t pay me in the summer,” Carver Milne said. “But if I didn’t work in the summer, we wouldn’t get the recruits.”
Carver Milne and her husband, Stew, a freelance photographer, planned to have their children in the summer. They had two boys, Aiden and Camden, now 20 and 18, both born in June.
“You’re always afraid you’re going to be behind,” Carver Milne said. At the time, at Brown, she added, “it [concerned me] that the program would fail” if she didn’t put in the effort.
Carver Milne’s husband did not take assignments when his wife had practice. Carver Milne did everything when he did work. “It was…
